The art of being straightforward seems to be a craft on its death bed. Why the dramatics? Don't you find it odd that we, as a society, describe people who are straightforward as refreshing (or something like that). As in "it's nice (refreshing) that she's so up front about things". Why would you use the terms like nice and refreshing in reference to something that should be considered normal. It's refreshing because that's the way communication should be, and upon experiencing it we find it to be "better than usual".
The problem with straight-forward communication is that we leave ourselves emotionally vulnerable to a number of responses: rejection and misunderstanding OR understanding and acceptance. I feel like we often avoid voicing our thoughts to others to keep our life clear of the first two, at the expense of the others. So crippled by this fear we can develop lots of superficial relationships.
So why not put yourself out there a little more, break out of that shell every once in a while? Because fear is tough to beat. But being religious has it's perks, I know that I can crush my fear if I have faith in myself and faith in God that he'll have my back when things get too intense.
So say what you feel, the more you do it the better you'll get at it (I'm not that good yet). But don't misuse this advice, you don't need to tell everyone your problems and do your best to make everyone feel horrible for you... In biology that's what they call parasitism. But sharing your problems in a healthy way can build relationships. Being sincere and expressive is an impressive combination. Give meaningful compliments when they come to mind. It sounds nice, but it's tough to break the 'thug life' emotional mentality, that's girls and guys, pretending you're aloof and don't give a !@#$ gets you nothing worth having. It really doesn't, speaking, of course, from my extensive experience.
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